Stuff-mental

I was shopping with my friend at Walmart today. She wanted me to smell her new lemongrass cucumber yellow 5 bath product she was buying. I generally hate strong smelling soap products, unless I chose the scent myself. I was trying to be gracious when I smelled it, but my face involuntarily wrinkled into what looked like a complete judgment of her and her bath product with no chance of retribution.

I have strong opinions on many things, but not so much on actual people. However, sometimes I think I make people believe it's the other way around.

Here's an illustration of what I worry about happening:

What I see:


What I'm thinking:


What my friend thinks:


Even if my friend USED this bath product that I think is horrible, I would still think the same of her. I'd still want to be her friend.


I like the challenge of changing myself to make people like me more, but I don't know how to not have strong opinions about stuff.

If I hate a movie, I'm very detailed in describing exactly why I hated it, using a vocabulary I'm not accustomed to using on a regular basis. I usually only sound smart when I'm talking about things I hate, unless I have a prepared speech on something I like, that I've worked on for hours.


Am I supposed to feel bad if I hate a movie that my friend likes?

On the flip side, if I have a good opinion on something, I tend to think this is THE ONLY way for me. FOR ME! I don't really care how you might do it. You could totally be the opposite of me on something very personal, and I'd be like "I would NEVER do that!" but it wouldn't have an impact on how much I liked you.



I would totally still like you if you said that to me, after my home-delivery speech. I'd probably like you even more.

I just value friendship more if there is a freeness of speech on how we feel about stuff. It's great fun to be friends with someone with good habits who is really different from myself. It's not so much fun judging someone as a person based on smart stuff I know.

The cool part about having a friend who is different is that there's more material for jokes based on stereotypes you might not quite understand.




See? That's hilarious.

Phone Call

I called JR to tell him I organized his paperwork. I also explained my new 'system' where I'm going to put sticky notes with instructions for each piece of paper he needs to deal with, and that his box of papers with instructions are sitting on his rocking chair.

He sounded somewhat alarmed the whole time I was telling him this. I asked how he was. He said that I don't usually call him when he's out, so he was thinking there was an emergency or something. Then he realized that I was just excited about organizing his paperwork, and now understands why I called.

I thought I called him more often than that. I guess not.

Good Meeting

I hardly heard any of the meeting today. I'll explain why with a run-on sentence:

Filip wouldn't eat all day yesterday so woke up at 2:30am hungry but he wouldn't eat then so we just watched a movie until 4 which meant I couldn't wake him up this morning so I had to dress him while he was asleep and pack his large breakfast because I couldn't let him miss another meal so he ate most of it in the car but had to finish the rest in the bathroom after the meeting started which means he was wide awake by then and was having a good time in the nursing mothers room spinning in circles and just being generally loud until we sat down and I helped someone with their kids which got him more social time than he is used to so I assumed he wasn't listening then.

The sentence of the talk I heard was about the benefits Jesus would bring with the kingdom. Filip was spinning around in circles and fell on the floor, on purpose.

"Mommy, I hurt myself, I need Jesus." he said.
He got himself off the floor and then said:

"I better now, Jesus make it better."

So through all that, he managed to understand the theme of the talk, and make personal application. So there it is, I guess we are training him. You could of fooled me.

New vocab

I just had an 'Oh, Tada' moment.

Jae & I got that from a Bill Nye episode. This kid was demonstrating a science experiment that was not working as planned. He kept fiddling with the different components. While he wasn't paying attention, the experiment started to work. He looked down, and saw it in progress, and went
"Oh Tada"

I was in the kitchen cutting vegetables & throwing them in to the soup we're having for dinner tonight. I was also thinking about how I need to finish cleaning the house. I looked around, and realized I was so busy cooking & cleaning that I didn't notice that the whole house was clean & dinner is made. The best expression I can think of, for a moment like this is
'Oh, Tada.'

Bad Mom Award

Filip & I were watching the bonus features on the DvD I rented of Star Trek episodes. On the behind-the-scenes episode, they happened to describe how they did the special effects on a particular episode that I skipped. We didn't watch that episode, because there was a scary part I didn't want Fil to see.

The scene they were discussing happened to be the part I didn't want Fil to see. It involved a human being taken over by a giant parasite. Then, the 'queen' is exposed in the man's chest.

The bonus episode was showing what they did to make it look like the actor had a huge parasite inside him. After that, they showed the actual scene. It was pretty fake looking, and cheesy.
Of course, it had much more of an impression on my 3-year-old.
I look down at Filip, and his eyes are wide-open, glued to the screen, with his jaw dropped.

Great.

Anyway, I smoothed it over, explaining that the man wasn't real, that slimy creature was fake, and no one really got hurt. He seemed ok, until his ran into the other room to tell his Daddy what he saw on Star Trek.

Whenever Fil's excited about something, he just says a bunch of phrases that relate to what he's thinking about. Then, it's our job to put all those thoughts into a sentence for him.

"Disgusting, the man, Star Trek, on inside, in the man, and I can't like that."

Somehow, I think he's going to have bad dreams tonight.

Credit Report

If you go to www.equifax.com you are allowed to download and print 1 credit report a year for free, under a certain law passed regulating credit.

I totally ruined it today. I was using the library computer to get this report. In the middle of the application process, I was notified that I have 2 minutes left on my 1/2 hour session. I clicked on 'print' just in time before it wiped off my session. However, my library print account didn't have enough money in it to cover the cost of the print. Jr ran to put money in the machine for my account, but to no avail. By the time money was in my account, my session was completely wiped off.

I started a new session, and went to Equifax. There's no shot at retrieving that file. You're allowed to look at it for free in one session, once a year. So if the electricity goes out while you're looking at the report or anything, you lose your chance. Of course there is no customer service number that has humans on it to retrieve it for you.

Now, if I want those 3 reports from them I'll have to pay $90.

Tiff

A normal conversation between Filip & his boat in the bathtub escalated into an argument that eventually became physical.
After much yelling & thrashing about, it finally resulted in Fil jumping out of the tub crying his eyes out. I asked him what's wrong.
He said "The boat was bein' mean!"

I made the boat apologize to him, & they were friends again.